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So I haven’t written much lately.Â I’ve had so much going on, I really hadn’t had the time.Â Since my last post we had holiday gatherings and the beginning of a new semester at school.Â This month, my son turns 3.Â He doesn’t really have a birth”day” this year…he’s a leapling (born on leap day) but I generally celebrate the last day in February as his.Â We had his party early this year so he could share the occasion with a friend.Â He had fun at his party but I hadn’t realized how much like me he was socially until this party.Â Because we combined forces there were almost 20 kids there ranging in age from 2 to 6.Â It was hectic.Â My son was playing with all the kids until there were about 8 there (and until some of the bigger kids showed up).Â Then, he very quietly found his own spot and played with about 2 kids at a time.
He’s always been an “observer” when it comes to unfamiliar situations but in this case, he seemed to have chosen to play with fewer kids.Â I think he did this for 2 reasons:Â 1) he’s not an aggressive kid by any stretch of the imagination.Â So, when some of the more aggressive kids began playing, he wanted no part in that kind of play. and 2) he would rather be engaged with his play partners than to be just running around wildly.Â I am very much the same in a social setting.Â I too prefer small social gatherings to large parties.Â I would rather sit and talk to a few people than run around chatting with everyone.Â I’m not sure that I “taught” him this behavior, he’s rarely with me at the “grown-up” parties I’ve attended.Â Perhaps this is part of his mild temperament that I’ve always been grateful for!
I was certainly proud that he was not the horrible little boy who was terrorizing other kids, or the other little boy who kept hitting kids to get them “out of his way.”Â I would have been mortified if either of those kids were my child.Â Then again, I would have known that my kid was doing those things and these kids’ parents were not paying any attention (perhaps this is where the behavior stems from??).Â The unfortunate side is that it is quite likely my kid will be confronted with this type of behavior from other kids at some point in his life.Â I’m not sure what he will do…likely, he will just walk away.Â Hopefully, he will tell me.Â
Next year, on his first actual birthday I plan to have a smaller party for him and have him invite only the friends he wants to play with.Â I’m learning more and more about him as he turns into his own little person and I certainly want his birthdays to be special (since they only come around once very 4 years!